Basic Outline of the Pattern/Problem

• in childhood to get things I wanted
• go into cry, sad face, lips bend, eyes wide open, trying to present innocence, secretly hopping for the outcome within my self interest
• blackmailing/manipulating parents or others through going into aggressive annoyance if I didn’t get what I wanted

At the moment I use the same as a subconscious program to manipulate others. I am having moments of clarity where I realize how I am manipulating with my body, posture, voice, words and what I am thinking in the moment.

Tackle the Problem with Self-forgiveness

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing to use and abuse my body, voice and expression to get what I want through emotional manipulation and blackmail.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing to present myself sad, cry, bend lips, open eyes wide open to look innocent to get what I want through making others believe I am innocent, right and hurt by their actions or inactions.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing believe my own fabrication of being hurt and sad by not getting what I want immediately and that I should be irritated, sad and angry as a consequence to get back to others, spite them, abuse them back as I believe they’ve abused me through not providing for me that which I desired.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing to fear that if I won’t prostitute myself as hurt and innocent I won’t get what I want and desire as my ego and self interest.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing forgot to consider others within me blackmailing them and manipulating them through my presence as trying to express myself emotionally hurt by the actions or inactions of others.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing to use a program I’ve inserted into myself and developed for my own self-interest and purposes in ignorance of what is best for all and what is self-honest to guide, direct and control me and leave the responsibility for myself as life to this program as an outside force, god, religion.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing to abdicate self-responsibility for getting what I want to an outside force as a belief that I am obliged to receive support from this outside force.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing to secretly hate and despise this outside force I belief should provide for me as I’ve abdicated all my power to and towards it and now I am dependent on this force, have to wait, pray and hope for this force to provide for me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing to fear my self created god as the outside force I believe in as and when this force does not provide form me on time or in the quantity and quality I require.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing to allow to be controlled, manipulated and directed by an outside force as a belief I’ve created about myself and within myself as I fear loosing this force as I believe and I’ve programmed myself to automatically and without consideration or practical common sense believe myself to trust my belief of god as something or someone that will take care of me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing fear walking and taking care of myself by myself completely alone without any outside support.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing to believe that I am too weak, too small to take care of myself and direct myself completely alone by my own and on my own accord.

First you fall

What do I mean when I say we first fall? That is the stage when we experience the consequences of our actions and of ourselves on our own skin, usually in a not very pleasant manner. It’s when our short temperedness overflows and we hurt someone we claim we care about. It’s when we’re suddenly nasty to someone we meet everyday. It’s when we turn a blind eye when we see it’s a definite time for action. Those and many more examples like these are our falls.

A fall is when you prove to yourself and everyone else your true nature as an abuser, careless, consideration-less monster. Being able to recognize this monstrosity in ourselves is the first step. It is not to judge it, fear it or despise it. It is to be able to say “Opps, now this is unacceptable and it is me, I am responsible for this, who I have become and what am I doing.” Yet this consideration is seldom made. Instead self-judgement, guilt, anger, resentment, justification and ignorance is used to cover up our deeds. Within such a cover up the fall is complete and the proof of who we are is signed by blood, metaphorically speaking.

After the fall you have to recover

Just like after a long night spend partying and drinking, the other day you have to walk through the consequences. And it’s not a pleasant experience. It’s slow, times seems to stop, everything seems dull, boring and the desire to give up is around the corner all the time. Yet you have to walk through it. And it takes time. And this time is wasted.

Save yourself time through learning how to stop falling

When you were a baby you slowly learned how to stop falling when learning to walk. This resulted in you being able to move effectively within your world. You can do the same for yourself within realizing the tool of self-forgiveness for yourself as yourself. Through effective application of self-forgiveness and consequent sticking to the statement and decision of self-forgiveness you can stop the fall in mid-air. Or even better, you’ll stop yourself even before you fall.

Then the experience changes and you don’t have to go through the painful learning curve of first fucking something up, experiencing the consequences and finally, after repeating it over and over learning from it and moving onto another thing. Surely that is not an experience you’d like to have. That is not life. That is struggle and it is a self-imposed struggle.

This painstaking learning curve of fall-consequence-realization is not necessary. Within this world it is actually pushed, because nobody knows better. You would hear from the “elders”: “You have to make mistakes in order to learn from them.”. Yes, true. With the exception of the word “have to”. If you make a mistake, learn from it. And move on. But realize the next time it is better to prevent the mistake, the harm. As for each mistake you pay dearly. And you can have only a limited amount of “capital” to pay for your mistakes. So, to save your “money” and your time, realize mistakes are not necessary. You do not have to constantly fall. Come on, you learned to walk, realizing constantly falling and then having to stand up does not serve you, does not get the job done.

Within our live the problems and falls we experience are caused and are the result of who have we become as sponges soaking up various beliefs, feelings and emotions from the outside world. These patterns as beliefs, feelings and emotions react and interact between each other and us and control and direct us. Exactly these patterns can be understood, realized, let go of and corrected through self-forgiveness. As that is the tool you use to identify the pattern, see it for what it is, realize it’s uselessness, it’s consequences and finally you let it go – forgive.

When you forgive, you apply and stand by the forgiveness and the decision of who you really are

There is no magic within a self-forgiveness statement. If you consequently do not stick to the self-forgiveness as the new decision about yourself, guess what, you’ll fall. Not sticking to your decision means only one thing – you can not be trusted. So do not allow yourself to waver and repeat the past mistakes as you’ll have to walk through the fall-consequence-recovery pattern and every time it will be difficult and painful. Rather apply the “pattern” of self-forgiveness-application-expansion. Within that you’ll grow, within that you’ll learn.

To learn to apply the tool of self-forgiveness, to save yourself time and money, explore Desteni here. Life coaching – Desteni I Process.

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You can never hide from that which you’ve become. Not for long. Self-honesty is the ability to take a good look at oneself and see the things as they really are. From there the real change is inevitable.

9. Change

We’ve got enough of living in a world where another can not be trusted, where poverty, war and abuse is allowed and nobody really cares or understands how to fix it. We realize that if we do not do something about it it will only get worse. Therefore we act.

10. Self-movement

If you want to participate, you have to find within yourself the motivation, time, steadfastness and energy to do so. Only such people can be trusted. Only such people can change and bring change.

Other issues are something I only see slowly emerging, usually as unusual reactiveness to my environment or others around and with me; or physical discomfort or stress. These take some more time and effort to clear up, understand/realize and let go of.

One of such points is the change within who I was as someone that hunts for females as I didn’t have a mate by my side to walk with and enjoy what I imagined and desired I’d enjoy within a relationship. Now I have a relationship and in many ways the parameters of it are exactly as I’ve imagined. That is a female I consider immensely attractive on all levels – physical, communication, character, principles. And this female expresses attraction, liking and appreciation towards me. This is basically what I wanted and desired from a relationship and now I got it.

The difference is the imagined and desired energetic experience of being in such a relationship, consisting mainly of the idea of perfect sex as something that will fulfill and satisfy me and the actual real physical walking with another being. This idea I’ve created about a relationship in my mind and all the energetic experiences connected to it is not present and the experience thereof is not present at all within the relationship and physical walking I have. And I knew that even before I engaged into the relationship – that my ideas about a relationship will most likely play out quite differently in reality. However within that it’s not possible to grasp the actual real experience and all the side effects of a real physical relationship. So in many ways, in all ways actually the experience of walking a relationship with another is something completely new, unexpected, unfamiliar, yet on the other hand it feels normal, my inner experience changing only gradually as I walk and as I have walked the self-purification process through self-forgiveness and practical application and within that I can state that I haven’t changed within the relationship. I am still the same, or more precisely the commitment and the goal I walk towards is the same, only becoming more clear, natural, easier to walk which only makes sense as with every breath I accumulate what is best for all as much as I understand or realize it at the moment.

One of the points that emerged within walking of the physical relationship with another is the point of stopping being in the mode of a hunter, searching for a prey as a perfect female to conquer and make mine to please my desires and manifest my dreams. This obviously had and has to be stopped as I already have someone by my side and the focus is now on cherishing, working on and embracing one another and not having to look for other possible relationships anywhere else as that would compromise what we’re doing. That means not dreaming, fantasizing about other relationships or searching and seeking for them in the reality. As long as the decision to walk the relationship together is there, that is the only thing that makes sense as the commitment has to be full and complete to each other as there is so much that requires attention, has to be focused on and brought into the light of existence as the things that we enjoy doing together and would like to experience together.

However that does not mean I’ve automatically became clear, within entering a relationship with another, of all the pre-programmed patterns, ideas and systems I’ve lived with and through. The point of hunting for a prey, as females, still has an effect on me. My decision and application is clear – whenever a though or a past-moment picture-memory enters my mind/attention I stop it, let go, forgive. The same is within my real physical walking – whenever I notice my eyes entering the pattern of profiling and focusing intensely on another female I stop, look somewhere else. I stop within myself and bring all that lead to this intense observing as to understand and realize and ultimately completely let go of the points that I still hold onto in relation to the whole sex/relationship system, the definition and self-belief of myself and anything else it is connected to.

There are resonant fears and anxieties present. Either I fear that I’ll loose what I now have as this relationship; or I fear that something will happen to my partner; or I fear that the relationship will end badly as I or the other will make a mistake and hurt another. And there may be more of these fears. Often I experience the anxiety, yet I can not name or identify immediately where does it come from. There the point usually play out in a progression of a few days where I can observe all the side effects, changes in my behavior and all the points I react to and from there I can interpolate or I am assisted through others noticing the change within me and pointing it out to identify what exactly it is I believe, identify with and allow to be manipulated with that does not serve me and it’s time to let it go, forgive.

However I can hardly label my experience as a struggle. Within walking with Desteni it’s becoming much easier to work with any fear or anxiety or similar experience within myself as what it is: something within me reacting to something else within me. And while it is still part of my being I know it does not have to and my decision to let go of any such added and unnecessary experience is crystal clear, so, I do not identify with the experience, I do not allow it to take over me and completely posses it. I have the ability to stop, observe and eventually sort out and let go of that which controls me as past patterns, memories, fears, systems.

I started to watch pornography in the first year of high school. There almost everyone was interested in sex and relationships and for the guys with computers it become natural to share their porn collections between each other. Every time someone brought a new porn movie into the classroom it would be a point of discussion and almost a fight as to who gets to borrow and copy it first. The discussion would be in the veins of “Is it good?” “Yeah, it’s fucking amazing!”. The discussion participants referring to the energetic experience, or high, they got from this particular movie.

That’s where my definition of sex and the sexual experience between man and woman developed. So what is this definition of sex based on pictures, movies and visual stimulation? It is an addiction to the energetic experience of rush, anticipation, excitement, connected to particular body shapes, sounds and movements as depicted and recorded within a porn movie.

Is it natural to “enjoy” pornography?

Where and how does one create the connection, and as such accept and allow to have certain emotions and feelings triggered within oneself, between watching pictures or video of people having sex and the energetic mind experience itself? Is it something natural, something one is born with or is it something one actually learns to do through observing ones environment? From my experience it is indeed something one is taught to do through constant manipulation through imprinting the connection between beauty as certain specific human body shape as defined within television and literature and pleasure as a result of interaction with such a body shape through and as sex. And this manipulation is not only present in the pornography itself. It is present within the very first stories we tell our children about the beautiful, innocent princess and a strong, handsome, young prince and their eventual connection as love, romance or marriage defined and depicted as something wonderful and great. That is the initial stage where I’ve created the basic outline of what it is that I desire from a relationship, from another human being, from a woman.

The next step is learning about sex and that such interaction is possible between two people. This is the next layer I would imprint on the initial blueprint of the perfect prince and princess and their perfect relationship. This sex is something they can do and as they’re bodies, skills, abilities, deeds and personalities are perfect this sex they experience must be perfect too.

This perception of perfect sex and the pleasure it allows one to experience is reinforced within the cinematography from it’s very beginning. There you can see the perfect people enjoying perfect romance and eventually perfect sex as the pinnacle of human expression and as the most ecstatic experience one can engage into. Within observing this the though of “I want to experience this” emerges. The desire for a perfect relationship and within that the desire for the perfect sex is born.

Pornography is then the next logical step one immerses into, if one has access to such a thing. It further reinforces the belief one has already created about certain body shapes as pictures on the screen and what one experiences within the interaction of such body shapes as sex. One connects, reinforces and multiplies the feelings of excitement, rush, being overwhelmed with ecstasy with these pictures. Pornography then provides for more specifics like what are the specific sexual positions and techniques one would like to experience as those are the ones that one experiences the most intense feelings when observing them on the computer or TV screen.

This can go on for years. And in my case it did. I watched pornography and used it to generate energy as excitement to have a nice experience within masturbation from the beginning of high school. I stopped only when finally facing myself for the first time for real within the application of self-honesty and self-forgiveness within studying and applying the Desteni research.

One of the points of stopping the addiction to pornography was to actually face myself within having a real physical sex with another. Engaging a woman and creating a relationship with her as to eventually have sex was something I allowed myself to do only when I decided to stop with masturbating using fantasies and pictures. Only within that decision I mustered enough courage to actually do what I dreamed about for years. And to my surprise, it was nothing like I though, imagined and believed it would be from watching pornography.

The difference between the belief and fantasy of what sex is, created through pornography, and the real physical act of sex

Within my first real sexual experience I obviously tried to apply everything I’ve “learned” within watching pornography. And I did. Yet it was no ecstatic experience. The orgasm was “less than” what I’ve experienced within masturbation.

There are two routes one can go from the realization that the real sex is nothing like what one dreamed about from watching television, reading and watching pornography. The first is to hold onto the belief that the perfect sex as depicted within pornography is somewhere out there and one only has to get hold of the perfect partner and amass enough experience to be a porn star on ones own.

Such a route is not something I recommend taking. It operates based on the belief which one proven to oneself not to be real. It operates within the assumption that something will change in the future and this dream of mine is waiting there for me only if I do this or that and/or get this and that. That is not something one can build on, one can develop. It’s a never-ending search for something better. Yet this is what most people choose to do. And you can see the results within all the crashing relationships of all the perfect personalities as celebrities, actors, models, “soul mates” and the “leaders” of our world. It all crashes, the dream of perfect relationship and the perfect sex is never fulfilled.

The solution

I present to you another way. First stop and let go of, remove, delete, discard and forgive all the fantasies, pictures, beliefs, energetic connections, dreams, expectations and blueprints within and as your mind and body. This in itself is quite a process, yet something you do step by step, breath by breath and within that it’s simplistic and doable for everyone that dares. Everything on how to remove these things is presented within the Desteni material.

This stopping is like entering an abyss you have to walk through and survive the quench. Your ability to stand within the face of the desire, allocate oneself, keep walking and moving oneself without emotional wobbles is what determines the length of the whole process of giving up that which does not serve you as the addiction to imaginary “sex” supported through pornography and imagination.

By the way, mentioning imagination – it is the same thing as watching pornography. You’re using other people, rape them in your mind, without their permission and you justify it with that it is harmless. It’s not. First you support the whole concept of sexual abuse and rape where you want something, you can’t get it through the means of actually agreeing with other real person on walking together an exploring your sexuality, so you find a way around it. It start within the mind, then proceeds to actual physical acts that eventually lead to rape. So sexual imagination has to be completely stopped as well. C’mon, apply some self-honesty and see for yourself what is the actual outflow of what it is that you’re doing. Apply your imagination in a constructive way: intensify everything you’re doing – having to use constantly more brutal and brutal fantasies to get the same energetic experience as excitement and rush and see where it leads to. If you can see that and you actually have some brain left – stop while you can.

It’s worth it. Because as you walk through the abyss of stopping and giving up that which you identifying as invalid within yourself you can slowly proceed to exploring that which is real.

In my case I walked the stopping of the porn addiction for a few years. And I’ve fallen many times – where I would get back to using porn to masturbate. Then I had to stood up again, start from scratch again and forgive myself. As I got better with it, my resolve and trust within myself grow stronger. Within that I was able to actually approach females and communicate, actually enjoy it and relax within it as there was no, or very little, backchat as sexual fantasies. Within that you’re able to appreciate another being for who she really is and not just a picture in your mind you want to fuck with.

After some more time, application and standing by my decision, I found a partner I walk with, enjoy my time with and explore sexuality within open communication and without any hidden secrets, agendas, wants and needs. It’s something that flows naturally through us walking together, supporting each other and enjoying each other within communication, work, play and sex. The sexual expression develops slowly, step by step, breath by breath as I explore my body and the body of another and learn what it is to actually be within my body and what it is to touch another, to be intimate with another, what it is that each one enjoys.

One evening behind my computer, searching for videos on YouTube regarding meditation I stumbled on a video by DesteniProductions. It was not exactly what I expected to found. Other material on meditation to be found there would mostly deal with and describe all the positive, beautiful and magnificent effects and properties of meditation. However the video by Desteni took it straight on with an entirely new, yet simplistic and common sense perspective. Meditation was explained as mental masturbation, nothing more than hiding before the real world, imagining, projecting and believing in whatever one wants to believe in or reads about one should experience and than claim connection to everything from god, source to all kinds of higher powers. While the world around us crumbles into destructions without the seemingly enlightened beings that meditated their way who knows where do not provide any solutions and often actually end up as abusers themselves.

Even though I’ve liked my meditation and I believed I am gaining something by practicing it, I am not someone that shoves away new facts, however uncomfortable they might be. The ability to look freshly without judgement on a situation or new information and consider it, even if I am involved, is something that I proven to myself I can rely on and has pulled me through many times. So I did and as I let go of the belief that I am gaining something by meditating I realized I in fact do not need such a thing and all the positive effects I perceived were a self-created belief without any practical consequences or outflows on the physical reality.

Diving into the rest of the material, while using the word rest, doesn’t do it justice, since the information provided by Desteni for free is vast and huge, was and is a fascinating journey into myself and into the workings of the human being, universe, existence, plants, nature, animals, bugs, heaven and hell… Yet it all has it’s meaning and placements as to make one realize what it is that is relevant within this world, see where we come from and why what is present here as this world is how it is and what can we do about it. There’s no mystery within it, no secrets, riddles, magic, exaggeration – it’s simplistic, down to the earth and one can start applying what one discovers immediately.

Desteni is the ultimate learning resource that everyone that knows how to read and write and the basic mathematics should immediately look into and integrate. It has been the single most beneficial teaching/information I’ve come to contact with as important as the mere ability to read or write.

The solution for the crumbling World System as Capitalism – The Equal Money System

As I’ve mentioned, Desteni investigates all relevant areas of human (and other) life. The economic system we live in, fortunately or unfortunately, dictates who we are, how we live, what we do, eat and drink every day. Money is the building blocks of our life. The cells in ours bodies have been bough, one by one, as and within the food that we can or cannot buy. Therefore it’s safe to say money is the god here in this world, the god above all gods, the only universally respected, bowed down to and prayed for god. Therefore it’s of critical importance of how the system of how do we get to the so much needed supply of money works. If the rules do not represent the single most important value we have here on this planet – life – the system will cause suffering, abuse, pain and trauma to this very life. And that’s what’s busy happening all around us. A solution has to be found – or we as humanity are living, or surviving, our very last century here on the blue planet.

Even todays researches done within and as the capitalistic system clearly show that the countries where the wealth is equally distributed amongst the population and covers the basic needs of education, shelter, food, healthcare are the most advanced, developed and highest ranking in the quality of life studies. Yet people do not become all lazy, fat and without any drive to work, improve and expand within their lives. It’s actually the exact opposite. Where we see disempowerment, lack of care and neglect of oneself and the other, criminality, laziness and giving up is in the poverty stricken regions of our cities and countries.

Therefore it’s common sense that if we distribute the wealth equally, to cover the basic necessities of everyones life, we set the right soil for prosperity and advancement of our civilization. Just like a properly watered plant will flourish.

Equal money will remove the deepest fear of all within the humans – fear of survival. Whether we consciously are aware of it (mostly not) we live within and as this fear of survival every day. We act on it. The results we see all around us. If water, food and shelter is no longer your everyday worry and your primary concern is not how to repay your debt – you’re free, the fear of survival lifts. The motivation to abuse, to act like a criminal is suddenly not there. There is no excuse to not look at the more fruitful areas of human life like education, self-empowerment, fulfilling work, establishing relationship with others, traveling, cooking… That should be the things we worry about, not survival. And it is very much possible with the Equal Money System.

Heaven on Earth – what is it – is it possible?

It does not take much effort to establish what one enjoys, where one feels comfortable, secure, with whom one wants to share his time being here. If everyone has the opportunity to decide on that, everyone equally, without in and during the process harming others or considering others needs as less than mine, we would have Heaven on Earth.

Is it possible? We’re brainwashed to believe that it is not. Our capitalistic system that provided for our education teaches us that we must take from others in order for us to have. It teaches us that poverty, suffering, disease is necessary, natural and part of the evolution.

We at Desteni give the middle finger to such beliefs. We’ve realized that how humanity lived and where we are was and is a constant battle between those that believe there are better than others, righteously claiming their status and position and then by all means defending them and those that do not have and have to fight for their survival. The cycles just repeat themselves and the players change or exchange. While the solution is simplistic. The Equal Money System solution for the greater world economic situation is just the reflection of what is the solution for each and every individual living being on this planet. Equality and Oneness. Where everyone gives to others what they’d wish to receive. In that you can be trusted by others. Within trust there is no fear. If no fear exists life will cherish. One can prove these principles within immediately applying them within and as oneself, within the situation one is currently within the present system, realizing that this is the starting point from which we must change and it can not be different. There is no rapture or savior coming. Because there is no need for one. We can give to ourselves what we what. But that is the catch – we in fact need to give it to ourselves. Yet we believe we can not. We believe that we’re not intelligent, strong, brave enough or that we lack something or are limited somehow. If one dares to remove these beliefs there is only one principle that remains – Equality and Oneness – and one starts to in fact push for immediate application and manifestation of these principles because one realized beyond the shadow of a doubt that there is no other sensible way how to continue this life and possibly what’s beyond it.

Heaven on Earth will be when we start to apply our common sense and consider everyone equally. What will emerge from that – I do not worry about that – because it will be the result of the principle or mathematical equation of equality which guarantees that one is taken care of as that is what one gives to another and others give to you. It’s easy to care when everyone else cares too. Yet we can not wait for everyone else to start caring. Everyone that is able to realize this has to start with immediate application of this and stand as an example of the new Earth and what is possible within simplicity of this solution. Others will join, because it is common sense.

Get started

From the thousands of Desteni video interviews and perspectives my all time favorite is the discussion on the difference between Experience based living and Principle based living. Youtube links:

Part 1.: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OgF2pDbvE60
Part 2.: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Wn4fHGeED4
Part 3.: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mkqG7Z8J5f4
Part 4.: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6t6f5RrcjrM
Part 5.: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5IQ0r9HHq2w
Part 6.: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9d7J6upPEU8
Part 7.: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JovkFfrCEVM

…is time. Give someone enough time and you’ll see whether his words are his actions. As such time is the ultimate proof of one’s standing. Time provides all the tests necessary, temptations, adversaries, opportunities, places to rest and places to work. Within that one leaves a trail of consequences, side effects, that can not be faked. Within one’s mind that is stored as memory that either hunt you or prove you to you as your word. Your word is the only thing that you have to prove to yourself and everyone else, else you can not be trustworthy. That’s why most people do not trust each other. They see the mess as the trail each and everyone leaves behind and consciously or unconsciously they know they can not trust another as they see the results of their actions. Then they see the mess they’ve left behind in their own lives as memories that haunt and have to be buried behind walls of suppression. And ultimately everyone sees the mess that we’ve left behind as humanity, the human race of destruction or shall I say to destruction. No wonder no one has any real trust within oneself as he perceives his own kind as inferior.

All of this proven through time, written and recorded by history.

You have to learn to stop the time…

…of consequences that you accumulate through the passage of time. That is done through breath, being the one breath at a time at all times and applying common sense to the situation at hand. Within that you’ll be able to stop time, from the perspective of accumulating consequences for you and others around you. Then you can stop worrying about time, as it no longer plays against you.

To learn more about time visit desteniiprocess.com.

There are/were activities and task that I engage and start with where I hesitate and put my abilities as whether I’ll “do everything right” in question. Within this self-doubt, fear of making a mistake, letting others down or even betraying and hurting other and myself arises. This fear I could easily justify with words and statements like “I don’t know what’s going to happen and how I’ll react, I might fuck up, stumble, I might miss something, give into temptation…”. These however are just that – justifications. If I look closer into what’s behind this fear as self-doubt it is the lack of self-trust and a definite decision to trust myself as me and me only being the only defining factor of this trust and no other people or circumstances.

Trusting oneself to always make a decision that is best for all and a definite application of this trust results in trustworthiness

As I make the decision to trust myself to always make a decision where I consider others and everything else equally within what’s best for all, and I stick to this word to myself, and apply it, I build myself as trustworthy within my own consideration and reflection as well as within the eyes (and ears) of others. Then there is no reason to fear and doubt myself as to how I’ll conduct myself in the future no matter the circumstances. The simplicity of this decision and application thereof removes any and all such fears. This however does not mean projecting myself into the future as happy and fantasizing about a dream world and future I would like to live in. It means being here, content, stable and silent and being able to focus and fully put myself within what it is I am currently doing as there is no energetic reactions as fear within me, influencing me.

This trust is build and fostered by the application of my words and sticking to the simplicity of it. If a moment arises where a decision needs to be made and situation handled in certain way – that’s the opportunity to prove myself to myself as that I’ll indeed make the decision and handle the situation within what’s best for all. If I fuck up or make a mistake I forgive myself. But it can not be a deliberate fuck up as self-sabotage or spitefulness towards others. The decision itself – to trust oneself within always handling the situation that presents itself within what’s best for all – however does not have to be proven to be effective – because it is a decision an if one lives by one’s words – it’s done within one moment. And the fear of future as fear of making a mistake is gone within one moment as well.

I Process is an online course where you learn and apply essential life skills. You gain abilities that were not given to you in school, no matter what school you attended, yet they should have been. As these skills are essential to the understanding of yourself, other people and to be able to effectively walk through life while making the best out of it.

I Process is though not about a hollow pursuit of personal happiness. Fulfillment and satisfaction with oneself is only the side effect of what you’ll learn and apply here. What you will become is a fully functional human being, free from the self imposed limitations, yet practical and looking at the world with common sense. Within that you’ll become a part of a group of human beings that work together, yet alone and completely self-motivated to be the force of real good in this world, being able to stand tall within all the events and situations this world presents to us.

Been there, done that

Me I’ve participated within I Process from the beginning of it’s existence, which is something like 2 years. And man is it a blast. From an uncertain young man, confused by all the temptations, purposes, pursuits and world events as what’s happing each day around me I’ve built myself into certainty, responsibility, principled living, utilizing every moment to the best with a clear aim and purpose within my life and (possibly) beyond it – if anything like that exists. And I am ready to prove it. For now – here on this blog as my words.

Among the most useful skills I’ve learned and I am now utilizing with great effect is the ability to self-honesty write as to describe my inner and outer experience, my reality and see what it is that I have to do to solve the puzzle of life at hand. By that I mean overcoming, making sense of or smoothly going through problems, hiccups, misunderstandings, emotional & feelings experiences, facing new situations and being present as myself at all times, without wavering. Further my writing skills gained within participation in I Process allow me to program myself from the perspective of correcting certain behaviors or patterns and aligning them to the best interest of all, including myself.

Mind Constructs provide a structured way to record and analyze my behavior and take apart events and actions I’ve participated within and as. There I can see all the decisions I’ve made and I can trace them to where they really originate from. This origin can then be changed or aligned to serve me and others around me and not the other way around – me being a slave to idea, belief, emotion or feeling.

Muscle Communication provides a certain and stable foundation of communication with my own human physical body. Where the ever chattering and seemingly unstoppable mind can not grasp what’s happening, assist or see through the maze of thoughts, emotions and feelings, muscle communication provides and guides me through it with certainty of the physical touch.

To really dig deep into myself and be a real master of myself I combine these skills as to create me into someone that I can look at in the mirror with certainty, trust and with a friendly smile as I’ve proven to myself that this guy won’t let me down.

Last but not least there are the other participants within Desteni I Process, support buddies and moderators that assist and guide me through the material and assignments. A quick email or a conversation over Skype, getting perspective from another that you know you can rely on, can shed light on many problems and saves one time as there are many walking the same path as me.

There are no excuses why you should not start

Participation within Desteni I Process demands only one thing from you: dedication to your process of progress as learning the course material and applying what you’ve learned. If you can not afford the monthly course fee, you can request a sponsorship, where you make yourself visible by having your public blog and showing your serious approach towards the material that is taught within Desteni as there is a great amount of free material available that you can start with before you enter the course.

The money part

An optional choice within entering the I Process is the income part. Here you can choose to act as an Agent, where you use multi level marketing to get 10 other people to join I Process and select you as a Recruiter. With the first recruit you start to earn royalties from his income. You support your recruits with marketing and recruiting skills you’ve applied for yourself and you grow your downline. This gives you a monthly Active and Passive income where part of it is earned from supporting students directly underneath you and part of it from the students your students recruited. This however is not some kind of never-ending pyramid scheme. You can recruit a maximum of 10 people and you earn money only from those that actively participate, pay theirs course fee and are supported by you. The nice thing is that when you get your 10 recruits, you do not have to worry about recruiting anymore. You cherish and educate your downline and enjoy the benefits of active and passive income.

Be the Real Change

As you look closer into Desteni and what is that the material provided looks into, with a bit of common sense, you’ll see that there are definitive guidelines and real life tested suggestions provided and proposed to the most prominent problems facing the life on planet Earth. Not a small piece of the pie if you ask me. But how else could a real self-development and growth be completed than by expanding what you understood and realized about yourself to the whole world, not leaving a single human, animal or plant being behind. Because we’re part of this world and whatever it’s fate and destiny is, it’s ours as well, inseparably and inevitably.

To learn more visit:

• Desteni I Process: Self-development & Leadership Courses
• Desteni: Equality & Oneness

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I’ve watched an episode of Star Trek where the crew and it’s captain considered to, and first were firmly decided, to apply the Prime Directive of non-interference to a situation where a whole planet populated with people without a chance to escape was in terrible danger.

Let’s look closer at what Star Trek’s Prime Directive implies and where it comes from. The Directive is an amalgamation of how the creators of the Star Trek series view and justify the behavior of their own country – The United States of America. The core principle that gives rise to such a Directive, direction, principle is an egocentric self-interest. The basis of the self-interest in this world, specifically from the perspective of a big corporation, as what the United States of America in fact is, is the drive for profit. Everything is allowed, every road can be taken, any sacrifice made as long as it’s for the sake of profit, as money, justified where is serves as the principle of non-interference and on the other hand intervention for the sake of good or human rights.

The justification of non-interference is applied in scenarios where the situation in a particular country provides profit. A blind eye is turned onto such a place. People can be abused, violated, exploited, live in poverty but as long as the situation is profitable for the observer – the corporation – the nation – the non interference is justified with the likes of Star Trek’s Prime Directive.

On the other hand the justification of serving human rights, expanding, implementing and providing democracy as a savior is used when the corporation decided that it would be profitable to interfere.

What kind of these principles are these then? They’re no principles. They are justification used to justify self-interest where it’s needed and they cease to exist when a need for another justification arises. People that use these justifications and hide behind ideologies like non-interference as egoists without any integrity or a backbone.

Back to the Prime Directive, as the principle of non-interference with the internal affairs of other nations or species. One of the points the supporters of such an ideology would use is the right to free choice. A free choice in this case means the right to abuse another when necessary – when profitable to one’s own self-interest. Because that is the only “free choice” that exist. No human has a real ability of free choice. The most fundamental influences that shape each and everyone’s life are completely out of control of each and everyone. You do not choose the body, the parents you enter this life into and as. You can’t choose whether you’ll have a genetic disorder or not. You can’t choose to be born into wealth or poverty. You can’t choose when and how you’ll die – unless you’re suicidal. And that’s not a free choice either – because such people have decided that suicide is their only option and that in itself means there is no free choice.

Understanding that free choice does not exists we clearly see that when it’s used to justify why we should not interfere with the matters of others can not be really used. Because others, just like me/us, don’t have a free choice and therefore can not exercise such a right.

Having that out of the way, it all comes down to one thing – common sense. And the question: What is best for all within this particular specific situation and moment in time? With the case of Star Trek – if having the opportunity to save a civilization without the means to escape from a planet in peril – the answer is a clear yes. A no ideology should stand in the way of such a common sense decision. The participants within the Star Trek universe have virtually unlimited access to resources, means and living space. So there is no reason to let a small group of people, compared to the whole Federation of Planet, die, for the sake of a “principle” which is not really a principle as explained above.

It’s interesting that a point like Prime Directive is existent within the world of Star Trek which in many ways depicts a humanity on a much more common sense level. And it has nothing to do with the “advanced” technology. It’s about how of that which is available is redistributed and shared. Within the United Federation of Planets every child that is born is taken care of and has access to resources, education and opportunities equally. That an application of common sense and what’s best for all. If that would be understood by the creator of the series something like the Prime Directive would not exist because the crew of the starship Enterprise would not be stopped by an ideology or a believe when implementing what’s best for all and making sure everyone in the universe is taken care of equally. The existence of the Directive within the series is the influence of the creator’s beliefs about the world, what’s right and what’s wrong and as such made it into the concept of the future where they, in actuality, do not have a place, because there is no abuse existent that needs the justification of non-interference and the right to free choice.

To finish let’s bring this understanding to a practical application within the world we live in here and now. Let’s get rid of all the ideologies of non-interference, the right to free choice and actually for the first time interfere with the destiny of the human race by giving each other a solution to our situation. The solution is the Equal Money System. It’s the Star Trek without the Prime Directive.